By Pauly Denetclaw:
I was assigned a reading from “All About Love” by Bell Hooks as a part of my fellowship. I didn’t think very highly of this book. I mean seriously it’s titled “All About Love”. What could this book tell me? That only love can heal our brokenness?
Then, I read the introduction and I was changed. It made complete sense but I was reluctant to believe it. I have grown up in a society that demeans the greatness and power of love.
I didn’t realize that I too didn’t believe in love, which is astonishing to me because I firmly believe you have to come from a place of love in order to change the world. While holding this ideal and preaching love, I was still embarrassed to talk about it. I was embarrassed to say that love saved me from myself.
The love from my parents and partner pulled me up when I was falling. It pushed me to excel and pursue my dreams. My life has been driven by love – love for my field, love for my parents, love for my partner. Yet I would never admit to that before.
I would more likely admit to having profound amounts of determination and drive. However, that would be a lie. I have always lacked ambition when it comes to succeeding just for the sake of succeeding. I choose to be successful so I can be a journalist because it’s a field I’m passionately in love with. The consequence of not doing well in school and not having internships is that I won’t be able to do what I love for a living.
When it comes down to succeeding in this world, people like to hear the words ambitious, driven, determined and all the other synonyms to describe those addicted to the idea of conquering. Saying you love something or someone is linked to this idea of weakness. When in actuality love is what drives human beings to change and to be the best forms of themselves.
Now I will embrace love and hope it guides me to where I belong, something my mother always told me, but that I rejected until now.